How Being Cheated On Changes You
There’s this aloof woman who had been through a lot before she got into a new environment, new set of people and new circumstance.
It has been nearly 2 years of her worst heartbreak in her life, and yet it seems no one has ever jumped out of her. People would say, “Hey, don’t tell me you haven’t gotten over until now. It’s been a long time. Haven’t you got someone to date with yet?.”
The woman is just hella dumbfounded. She couldn’t figure out how to respond to the prying people.
Her friends even set her up into a blind date with strangers because they wanted her to be happy this time.
Guess what,
nothing actually happened but just a dull pain-in-the-ass, time-wasting dinner date.
Another day, she overhears her friend sayin that someone she knows actually likes her. This supportive friend of hers again persuaded to join her birthday party, (in order to get her friend to meet new people, new circle of friends or get a new Boyfriend.)
On that very same day before she has to go out of her room, she stopped facing the mirror. Looking miserable, she removed all her get-up clothes and resolved to lie on bed thinking about gazillion random negative thoughts:
“What the hell is wrong with me?.”
“Why I am always like this?”
“Maybe this person I’m gonna meet will be just another mistake. It’s not worth of my time anyway.”
“Same old… Same old…. People are always like that at first. One moment that person would declare how worthy I am of LOVE. and the next day:
Well… “things” happen. I don’t like you anymore as my girlfriend”
or…
“I’m sorry, But this has to end.”
“No matter how pretty you are, no matter how good you are in bed, no matter how much you love that person, regardless you’re gonna give your EVERYTHING to the one you love, if that person doesn’t anymore, He/ She will still leave you.”
“You can’t keep someone who doesn’t want to be kept.”
And so on and so forth…..
Then guess what, THAT WOMAN did not show up to the birthday party.
See what happens folks?
If you get cheated on, you start to doubt yourself.
You start to wonder if you are enough to anyone.
You start thinking you’re ugly, uninteresting and mediocre.
You start thinking that someone else will always be better than you.
You begin to think that all people are alike and that love in all forms will wither.
All those self-depreciating thoughts will become a mind monster that leads you to shut out the people around you, even the ones who genuinely love and adore you.
It’s no mental disorder. . .
It does not even mean “living in the past.”
But a reflex of your mind and heart to protect itself from another heart break.
The more you were hurt in the past, the more you become skeptical about relationships. You will become suspicious to even the happiest moments of your present life because you think, fate will deceive you.
Being cheated on in the past relationships, does not change your standards.
But it changes your perception to people. It changes your outlook in life. And it aggravates low self-esteem.
So to people who always think about themselves and thought cheating is a reasonable accident, the ones who love you won’t question you.
They would question THEMSELVES. .
